FAQ Friday (Video) - Advice for Couples on Mutuality?

Today is the first entry in a video series I'll be doing to respond to some of your frequently asked questions. When I solicited questions last week, this one from Morgan was the most popular, so I thought we'd start there. 

Morgan: Did you and Dan ever have a formal conversation about "mutuality" and equal partnership or did it just come naturally? I am getting married in July and my fiance and I both grew up under a heavily complementarian model for marriage. We started dating freshman year of college and 5 years later will be marrying with a much more evolved view of marriage and scripture than we had when we started dating. We talk about marital roles occasionally and we agree that our gender is not the dtermining factor in who "leads" and who "helps." His perspective, however, is more conservative and my perspective is more liberal. What advice would you give for couples who are dating, engaged, or even already married for discussing mutuality/gender roles in marriage? 

Here's my response: 

As a side note, we will be discussing those "submission" passages in much more depth in the weeks to come with a four-part series on the topic. In the meantime, if you are interested in learning more about mutuality in marriage and in church leadership, check out these posts from our Mutuality 2012 series: 

Week of Mutuality: How it will work, definition of terms

Let’s start at the beginning, shall we? (Genesis 1-3)

4 Common Misconceptions About Egalitarianism

Submission in Context: Christ and the Greco-Roman Household Codes

Dan on roles, leadership, and supporting your partner (Dan Evans)

Who’s Who Among Biblical Women Leaders

For the Sake of the Gospel, Let Women Speak (1 Timothy 2:11-15) 

Ask an Egalitarian...(Mimi Haddad)  

Is patriarchy really God’s dream for the world?  

When Men and Women Ministered Together as Equals (Ed Cyzewski)

Women of Valor: It’s About Character, Not Roles (Proverbs 31, Ruth)

Mutuality 2012 Synchroblog

 List of Resources

So, what advice would you give Morgan and her fiance? 

 

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Perhaps the most significant life lesson I’ve learned in my young adulthood is that knowing all the answers isn’t as important as asking good questions. So every now and then I like to use Fridays to 1) link to other bloggers and writers who have asked compelling questions during the week and 2) open the floor for you to share whatever questions you’ve been wrestling with lately.

Today I’d like to feature bloggers who have asked me some interesting, funny, and bizarre questions over the course of past week:

  • From Marshall Jones Jr.—Why do you think questions are more important than answers, especially with Bible verses that specifically tell us to be ready with an answer? (Read my response here.)
  • From Nicole Unice—What is the first thing you do in the morning and the last thing at night? (Read my response here.)
  • From Big Mama— Do you feel as though your questions led to a change in your politics or were your political leanings a precursor to your questioning? (Read my response here)
  • From Jason Boyett—Who are the three most significant monkeys and/or apes in popular culture? (Read my response here.)

Feel free to use the comment section to take a stab at some of these yourself!

In addition to interviews, several reviews of Evolving in Monkey Town have appeared on the blogosphere this week. What makes me most happy about these reviews is the wide variety of perspectives from which they come. Follow the links and you will hear from…

a scientist
a book blogger

a conservative Catholic mom

a “bleeding heart liberal”

a college professor (and one of my favorite bloggers!)

a skeptic

a well-known former pastor and church-planter

a “writer, editor, dreamer and book lover”

an advocate for women recovering from religious patriarchal abuse

a book lover and Twitter friend

an editor for Reasons to Believe
a women’s fiction writer

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So, what questions are you asking this week—on your blog, at your dinner table, in your head, in your heart? (And who do you think are the three most significant monkeys and/or apes in popular culture?) Feel free to take the opportunity to pimp your blog and include some links!

(Photo by DorkyMum)

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