FAQ Friday (Video) - Advice for Couples on Mutuality?

Today is the first entry in a video series I'll be doing to respond to some of your frequently asked questions. When I solicited questions last week, this one from Morgan was the most popular, so I thought we'd start there. 

Morgan: Did you and Dan ever have a formal conversation about "mutuality" and equal partnership or did it just come naturally? I am getting married in July and my fiance and I both grew up under a heavily complementarian model for marriage. We started dating freshman year of college and 5 years later will be marrying with a much more evolved view of marriage and scripture than we had when we started dating. We talk about marital roles occasionally and we agree that our gender is not the dtermining factor in who "leads" and who "helps." His perspective, however, is more conservative and my perspective is more liberal. What advice would you give for couples who are dating, engaged, or even already married for discussing mutuality/gender roles in marriage? 

Here's my response: 

As a side note, we will be discussing those "submission" passages in much more depth in the weeks to come with a four-part series on the topic. In the meantime, if you are interested in learning more about mutuality in marriage and in church leadership, check out these posts from our Mutuality 2012 series: 

Week of Mutuality: How it will work, definition of terms

Let’s start at the beginning, shall we? (Genesis 1-3)

4 Common Misconceptions About Egalitarianism

Submission in Context: Christ and the Greco-Roman Household Codes

Dan on roles, leadership, and supporting your partner (Dan Evans)

Who’s Who Among Biblical Women Leaders

For the Sake of the Gospel, Let Women Speak (1 Timothy 2:11-15) 

Ask an Egalitarian...(Mimi Haddad)  

Is patriarchy really God’s dream for the world?  

When Men and Women Ministered Together as Equals (Ed Cyzewski)

Women of Valor: It’s About Character, Not Roles (Proverbs 31, Ruth)

Mutuality 2012 Synchroblog

 List of Resources

So, what advice would you give Morgan and her fiance? 

 

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Ask me anything! (And a few programming notes)

'Question mark sign' photo (c) 2008, Colin Kinner - license: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0/

Well, I just wrapped up my last speaking gig of the summer, which means I’ve got three whole months of freedom to work on the blog, start on a new book, and clean out the bedroom closet.  

Several of my writing buddies have talked me into doing a bit more vlogging—maybe not as often as once a week, but at least a couple times a month. Since I have purposefully left my summer free of travel, I thought it would be fun to bring the Q&A sessions I enjoy doing on the road right here to the blog by inviting you to submit any questions you might have for me via the comment section.  I can respond to my favorites throughout the summer, through both video blogs and regular posts. This will give me an idea of what you want to talk about and help shape future content on the blog. 

So, if you have a question or comment, leave it in the comment section. As with our “Ask a…” series, it helps if you “like” your favorite questions, so we know what is of most interest to our readers. Don’t worry if it takes a while for me to get to your question; I'll be working through them all summer. 

I'll also be turning the tables on you a few times this summer, posing some of my big theological questions to you for your input and ideas. (Time to take advantage of all you smart people and figure out the Trinity once and for all!) 

By way of a programming note, I’m hoping to jump right back into our Sexuality & The Church series with a roundtable discussion on the topic of masturbation either this Monday or next Monday. We will be moving away from our conversations on homosexuality for a while to discuss sexuality more generally, but will perhaps revisit the topic again later in the year with some additional book discussions. In the meantime, we’ll be looking at Sexuality and Holy Longing by Lisa Graham McMinn, The Purity Myth by Jessica Valenti, and See Me Naked by Amy Frykholm. 

The next series to appear on the blog, Lord willing, will be a 3-5 post series on the Greco-Roman Household Codes of the New Testament, a topic I get irrationally excited about. Similar to our Mutuality Series, it will explore the concept of “submission” in the New Testament, particularly as it relates to men and women. 

So that’s the plan. It’s obviously subject to change. 

Now feel free to ask me anything (well, almost anything)!

As always, thanks so much for your faithful readership. It means a lot. 

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Has Dan turned me into a geek...?

...or is this really the coolest thing ever? You can find more here

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6 Things You Should Know About (+ A Giveaway!)

Update: Congratulations to Gayla Gower, Alana, and Alex - winners of a free copy of "Red Letter Christians" by Shane Claiborne and Tony Campolo...compliments of Thomas Nelson. 

1. Election Day Communion 

Transient

This is a brilliant idea that encourages churches across the country to hold communion services on the evening of November 6 so that Christians of all political affiliations and denominations can “share this sacred act of communion together, reaffirming our allegiance to Christ.”  The purpose is to bring people together on a day that often divides. Already, 265 congregations, schools, and groups in 44 states have pledged to participate. Looks like a group in Chattanooga will be holding one. Hope Dan and I can make it.  Be sure to check out the Web site for more information

2. Malala – A Young Woman of Valor 

Malala Yousufzai is a 14-year-old Pakistani girl who was shot in the head by members of the Taliban this week for her outspoken advocacy for the rights of girls in her country to go to school. She blogged for the BBC about education and won the National Peace Award in Paskistan last year. 

As many have noted, this happened just before the first annual International Day of the Girl, meant to highlight gender inequity around the world—particularly as it concerns lack of education, child brides, and slavery.  You can learn more about that, including how you can help, here

3. The Crowd, The Critic, and the Muse by Michael Gungor 

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I just finished this one and really enjoyed it.  Beautifully and honestly written, The Crowd, the Critic, and the Muse explores some of the toughest questions confronting artists these days, particularly in our increasingly loud and cluttered creative culture. I read it while trudging through my own creative desert and it proved to be just the oasis I needed. Michael Gungor writes with humor, insight, wisdom, and grace. This is one of the only books on creativity I’ve read that speaks directly into some of the things I struggle with as a writer whose work is digested…and criticized…primarily online. You can get it here

4. Haiti Bloggers 

Help One Now Haiti has a pretty amazing team of bloggers reporting from Haiti this week, including Sarah Bessey, Jen Hatmaker, Mary DeMuth, Kristen Howerton, and Dierdra Riggs. (You can find them on Twitter with  #Help1Haiti.) Some great posts coming out of the trip this week include Sarah’s “In which God doesn’t look the same anymore,Mary’s “5 Myths About Haiti,” and Kristen’s “Standing Firm and Looking Forward.” 

If you are interested in partnering with Help One Now with microfinance loans, you can make a one-time donation here.  You can sponsor a child in tent city here.

5. Launch Team update 

We had more than 300 people apply to be part of the launch team for A Year of Biblical Womanhood, and because I absolutely hate not including everyone—especially when just about everyone had amazing ideas and meaningful words of encouragement—I’ve left the selection process to my team at Thomas Nelson. They’ve got their work cut out for them, let me tell you. Expect to hear in the next couple of days if you’ve been chosen. (Ugh! This feels like Calvinism!) Thank you all so much for your ideas and enthusiasm. Brought me to grateful tears! 

6. Red Letter Revolution by Shane Claiborne and Tony Campolo

Red Letter Revolution by Shane Claiborne and Tony Campolo released this week and is a delightful read. Presented in a conversational format, in which Shane and Tony essentially talk through what it means to be “red letter Christians,” touching on everything from violence, to community, to Islam, to sexuality, to liturgy, to saints, the book is highly practical and, as always, incredibly challenging. This is a great book to start with if you’re new to the “red letter” movement, and I’m happy to report that Thomas Nelson has provided 3 copies for me to give away today!  So, if you’re interested, leave a comment indicating that you would like a copy of Red Letter Revolution by midnight (EST) tonight. I’ll randomly select three winners from the comment section (using random.org). 

Good luck!

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So, what should I know about? What else is happening in the world? 

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