Ask a pastor’s wife and a pastor’s husband…

by Rachel Held Evans Read Distraction Free

Our “Ask a…” series is back! And today we return with an installment I’ve been looking forward to for some time: Ask a pastor's wife and a pastor's husband. 

The image of the pastor’s wife has long been entangled with stereotypes involving baking, singing, and piano-playing, but in reality, spouses of clergy--both men and women--are as diverse as any other members of the Body. 

So I thought we might benefit from “Ask a pastor’s wife…” and “Ask a pastor’s husband…” to learn how we church folk can love our pastors and their families better. 

Our guests: 

Jodie Howerton is a freelance writer and communications consultant who has been married to her pastor husband, Mike, for 18 years. She has 3 children and is the founder of the Redefine Positive Project, an initiative that is working to reform HIV/AIDS education in public schools across the nation. 

(I’m a huge fan of Jodie’s work. When I asked if she’d be interested in participating in this, she agreed enthusiastically, but added, “I should let you know that I’m not a very traditional pastor’s wife."  I told her that’s exactly why I asked her!) 

Jim Kast-Keat is married to Jes, the Associate Minister at West End Collegiate Church in New York City. (You may remember we featured Jes in "Ask a Reformed pastor...") Along with being a pastor's husband, Jim is also a pastor, serving as the Associate Minister for Education at Middle Collegiate Church in the East Village. He is a divergent thinker, an ideation specialist, and an aspiring minimalist. Prior to working at Middle he helped lead ikonNYC in New York, NY, worked as a Product Designer with Sparkhouse in Minneapolis, MN and was a pastor at Mars Hill Bible Church in Grand Rapids, MI. He is the creator and curator of To find out more about Jim go to or follow him on twitter. 

You know the drill. If you have a question for Jodie or Jim, leave it in the comment section. (Please specify the person to whom your question is directed.) At the end of the day, I’ll pick the top 6-7 questions and send them to Jim and Jodie. Use the “like” feature to vote on your favorite questions from other readers. Jodie and Jim's responses will be featured on the blog in the next few weeks. 

Check out the rest of our "Ask a..." series here. 

I'm interested to see where this one goes! Ask away! 

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