“I walk with a giant limp in the sexy wife arena. I
still feel outright rage when I read that for the sake of my husband, I’m
supposed to be adventurous and wild, that to be this way represents true
spousal godliness. Because honestly? Those words just make me feel less than.
Those are a set of guidelines I’ll probably never meet….
It’s okay to struggle in this area. It’s normal. I give you
permission to say it’s frightening and bewildering. I pray you’ll find the
words to communicate with your spouse how you feel, how this is hard for you. I
hope for an understanding spouse who loves you utterly for who you are, not how
you perform. I want to tell you that it does get better, but that you won’t
improve by simply trying to on sexy clothes or offering your body as a fruit
plate. True sexual liberation comes from the inside out, where Jesus walks into
those terrible memories and mourns alongside you...."
