I had an amazing time at the Q: Women and Calling event in New York City and, to my surprise, left feeling profoundly encouraged about the progress of gender equality within evangelicalism. I’ll share more about that in the week ahead, but you can get a little peek at what our conversations were like by watching this dialog with myself, Shauna Niequist, Kathy Khang, and Rebekah Lyons above (and here.)
Best Teacher in the World:
My mom, Robin Held, who was honored as "Educator of the Week” by a local news station.
Mom teaches 4th grade science & history at Dayton City School and creates a fun, family-like atmosphere in her classroom where her students learn to be as compassionate and curious as she is. Right now her students are tracking the phases of the moon by observing it each night. Later in the year, they will work together to build an awesome model of the Jamestown settlement. She teaches through storytelling, song, art, rhythm and rhyme and she goes out of her way to love on the kids who come from difficult home situations. We can’t go anywhere in town together without her getting stopped by dozens of former students eager to give her a hug.
I am so blessed to have had this amazing educator as my mom. She made our childhood incredibly rich and fun and memorable. Eshet chayil, Mom! You are a true woman of valor!
Around the Blogosphere...
USA Today features our friend Caleb Wilde in “An Undertaker for the Overshare Generation”
“He tweets. He blogs. He embalms. Caleb Wilde is a sixth-generation mortician, working for the family business in small-town Pennsylvania — a Victorian-style funeral home where the only visible concessions to modernity are two big-screen televisions used by overflow crowds to watch a service.”
(We featured Caleb in “Ask a Funeral Director”)
Micah J. Murray with “How Feminism Hurts Men”
“Because of feminism, church stages and spotlights are often dominated by women. Men are encouraged to just serve in the nursery or kitchen. Sometimes men are even told to stay silent in church. Because of feminism, women make more money than man in the same jobs Because of feminism, it’s hard to find a movie with a heroic male lead anymore. Most blockbusters feature a brave woman who saves the world and gets a token man as a trophy for her accomplishments.”
Best Writing (nominated by Kelley Nikondeha):
Antonia Terrazas at Deeper Church with “So Great A Cloud of Witnesses”
“…We sing at the end of the night. Heart cracked open, this feels like a petition. My voice is lost in the crowd of witnesses.”
Best Open Letter:
Lea Baylis with “An Open Letter to Paleo Diet Enthusiasts” [Language Warning]
“There is one thing that would impress me about the Paleo Diet, and that’s if you went full on. Like, move into a cave and start hunting your meat and gathering your vegetables. Go on, hunt some big game with a bow and arrow. Prepare your meat without the benefit of running water and antibacterial soap. Carve your own knife that’s sharp enough to cut through bone.”
Benjamin Moberg with “On Football, Incognito, and What It Means to Be a Man”
“And he made that star quarterback understand that his value was not in his arm, his speed, being the captain was not just about athletic ability. His value was in how he treated others, how he led others with grace and understanding, how he could be a friend to the freshman full of athletic insecurities, how he could be an example.”
Audrey Assad with “I Shall Not Want”
Jamie Wright with “This is my Brain on Hugs”
“As soon as I saw my son's friend's dad, my arms began to rise like a hungry zombie, “We are going to hug you, Semi-familiar-Dude-in-the-grocery-store!”, and my brain was like, “WHAT IS HAPPENING?!”. So my arms were indicating they wanted a hug but my face was implying that a hug was a really bad idea. That poor guy. I'm just so confusing, with my arms that say “hug” and my face that says “stab”. But it gets worse!Because. My mouth was going non-stop during this terrible, terrible interaction.”
Halee Gray Scott at Her.Meneutics with “The Church’s Missing Half”
“A failure to proportionately and adequately represent women is a failure to steward the giftedness of half the individuals in our midst. The spiritual gifts are not gendered. The genesis of leadership is grounded in the spiritual gifts, which are freely given by God without respect to gender, race, or social class. When we don't showcase enough women's gifts and voices within the body, we fail to steward the corporate giftedness entrusted to us. Like the unfaithful servant, we bury the one talent entrusted to us. How would the church account for a similar stewardship of financial resources, that half of the resources were burned away?”
Abby Paternoster and Nathan Groenewold at the Calvin College Chimes with “Listen First: Introduction to LGBT Feature”
“Last summer, I walked into Pastor Mary’s office and forced out the deepest, darkest secret this CRC pastor’s kid had to offer: I’m gay. I never thought I would say those words out loud. To anyone…”
It looks like the response to this series has been overwhelmingly positive on the Calvin campus, which is so encouraging.
Best Response (nominated by Bob Keeley):
Debra Rienstra with “Love Reality”
“As the older generation, our job is not only to teach but to bless. So I want to bless the students who’ve courageously told their stories on this campus. I want to bless the many gifted, beautiful students (and friends, colleagues, acquaintances...) I’ve known who happen to be LGBT—I have been greatly blessed by them, and grateful for their trust and honesty. And I want to bless this current generation of Calvin students who are doing difficult theology, in real time, in real life, right now. Thank you for what you are teaching us, what you are demanding of us in this moment.”
Donald Miller with “The Story You’re Believing May Be a Lie”
“Imagine how much unnecessary negativity floats around in our brains because we’ve made up a story in our mind, convinced the narrative is true?”
Jennifer Lundberg with “You Made Me Brave”
“Because of you, because you were my friend, I was now brave enough to stand up to those around me that pushed me to vote against my conscience, against you. Because you were my friend. Not my gay friend. My friend. And your marriage, your family are important to me. Very important to me.”
Chaplain Mike at iMonk with “Are we more gracious than God?”
“But even on the cross, Jesus uttered the words, “Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing.” (Luke 23:34). That is not the language of penal substitution. Those are words of generosity — Jesus is asking God to overlook the ignorance of his executioners. Maybe sometimes Jesus just looks us in the eye, touches us, and says, “Go in peace.” Maybe sometimes he just runs down the road, throws his arms around us, and welcomes us home. Maybe sometimes he just lets us off the hook. His love covers a multitude of sins.”
Marlena Graves with “Don’t Judge a Book By Its Cover”
“Even though I’d like to think that I am generous and mostly unprejudiced, that I’m immune from judging people based on superficialities, I know I do. After my family, and what amounts to be a small church full of people, were maliciously harmed by Christian leaders of a certain theological and denominational bent (despite an uproarious public outcry calling these leaders to account and condemning their actions), I find myself recoiling when this particular denominational group is mentioned. I have visceral reactions. I associate much that is wrong with the church with them and people like them. I am prejudiced. I am judging a person by denominational trappings."
Rebecca Wanzo with “12 Years a Slave and the Problem of (Black) Suffering”
“Looking away has become a national pastime -- from the poor, the sick, and the civilians killed by war and drones. It is unclear to me what kinds of representations of suffering can always escape condemnation as sentimental, or manipulative, or "suffering porn." But when we disparage 12 Years a Slave for trying to capture the essence of pain in chattel slavery, we are disavowing people whose pain can never totally be represented. There are, of course, other stories about slavery and black people that can and should be told. But that does not lessen the importance of this one.”
“The darkness does not want you to use your voice. You are so full of light. The darkness will tell you that you are too much. Too loud. Too greedy. Too masculine. Too angry. Too emotional. Sometimes you will believe this. Sometimes you will try to make yourself small, and quiet. Sometimes you will hurt yourself trying to be small and quiet. Do this with me. Walk outside and look up to the sky. Reach your hands up to the wide, expansive sky, far above the crowdedness and the jostling. There is room for you up there. There is room for every bit of you up there. That place is yours.”
On my nightstand…
Birmingham Revolution: Martin Luther King Jr.’s Epic Challenge to the Church by Edward Gilbreath
On the blog…
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On Being Divisive
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In response to “Can we teach our children modesty without guilt,” Ben Irwin wrote:
"As the parent of a three-year-old girl, I wonder about this a lot, too. Here's one thing we've started doing, and one thing I've stopped doing that will hopefully make some kind of difference (even if it feels like we're just making this up as we go)...
One thing we've started doing: teaching our daughter about her body...minus the euphemistic names for certain parts. We want her to grow up knowing (a) her body is not something to be ashamed of and (b) it belongs to her. She doesn't need to flaunt it or use it to conform to someone else's expectations. And she doesn't need to feel like it's something dirty or shameful either.
One thing I've stopped doing: making jokes about how I'm going to invest in a shotgun collection when she starts dating, or how I'm not going to let her out of the house till she's 30. I know they're just jokes, but they can still affect someone's mindset — hers, mine, etc. In particular, these jokes reinforce the patriarchal view of a girl as someone else's "property" ... her dad's, her husband's, etc. It contributes to the false notion that her body is something dangerous, something to be kept locked away, something to be ashamed of. I'd rather take my chances letting my daughter out the door someday with a healthy view of herself than keep her under lock and key with a skewed view of herself.”
Ben followed up with a great blog post as well.
So, what caught your eye online this week? What’s happening on your blog?
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